Are you going to sue???

There are two questions that I get asked more often than anything else. It's funny, people will ask me about Grace, how she's doing, what caused the stroke,etc. Then they'll cut me off right in the middle and say "I hope you're suing that hospital!". I don't usually even answer the question, but I figure I will answer it here. It IS expensive to care for a brain injured child, I will not even begin to deny that. We have to travel back and forth 2.5 hours at least once a month for appointments. Grace can't handle a whole day in the car, so we usually spend the night, depending on the length of the appointment. Grace can't control her neck muscles as well as she used to, so we had to invest in an expensive car seat for those trips. Day to day expenses add up as well. She was fully potty trained before the stroke, and is now regaining her muscle control. We've been buying Pull-Up's for the past 5 months now though. At $15 a pop, yeah that gets expensive. She goes through shoes like most people go through toilet paper. Originally, because she was crawling everywhere, and now because the braces wear them out well before their time. There are many other expenses, as well.

However, that being said, the answer is a big, fat NO. We will NOT be suing the hospital. I will be honest, the thought was entertained. We even contacted a lawyer who told us we had a solid case. This was all while Grace was still in the early stages of rehabilitation, and we didn't know the outcome. We STILL don't know the final outcome, but we know suing isn't the answer. Why? First of all, what would be gained? Money. We TRY to live our lives based upon Biblical principles, and that right there is enough to make us realize that it would be WRONG. "For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows." I am not saying that anyone who has sued a hospital is wrong, but we know it would be wrong for us. Did the hospital do wrong? Yes. The nurse that was working that night definitely did not do all that she could have for Grace. She did not listen when we said there was something more going on. Is MONEY going to help that? No. All it would do is ruin a woman's life, and I am certain that she has thought long and hard about that night. I am CERTAIN that she has had the same nightmares that I still do, hearing Grace scream. I am ALSO CERTAIN that she would go back in an instant and listen to me. I am also CERTAIN that she truly thought that Grace had the flu, and that she was helping her by keeping her from the radiation of the CT scan. I am CERTAIN. Nurses are people, and they are the people that have done so much for me and my family that I could never repay it. Sometimes they are wrong...and at the end of the day, they live with mistakes they have made. I wish they didn't. They are JUST people.

If you have read this blog, you have gotten to watch and be a part of MIRACLES, as God worked them. To us, suing the hospital would be a SLAP IN THE FACE to our Wonderful Savior. "Well, God we begged for You to heal her, and You did. We begged for You to allow her to walk again, and You did. We asked that she could see again, and she does. But God, now we want money for our pain and suffering." PLEASE. "Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content." "But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus." We will not look God in the eye and tell Him that what He did for us wasn't enough. We will NOT.

As for the second question that I am often asked...will I write a book? A more positive answer for this one. Yes, I am starting to work on a manuscript for a book. It might take 20 years to complete though!!!

***Sorry if I seem preachy or whatever...we are just very adamant about this decision and why we have come to it.***